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Personality Traffic Light

A Little Girl PaintingThe Personality Traffic Light ego states in early childhood are termed simply the "child" in an examination of parent child relationships. Dr. Eric Berne (1910-1970), who developed this analytic tool, wrote, "The child is in many ways the most valuable part of the personality, and can contribute to the individual's life exactly what an actual child can contribute to family life that is charm, pleasure and creativity." When Jesus first met the woman at the well, he employed the child ego state in the parent child relationship to open the conversation in John 4.7 with the simple question, "Give me a drink of water."

Child Life

It is interesting that the spontaneous expression of the natural child is sometimes seen in a drunken adult. "Usually excessive alcohol decommissions the parent first, so that the child is freed in the parent/child relationship and is transformed into the natural child." So the intoxicated person tries to do tricks, cries or laughs uncontrollably, and doesn't care what people think about him or her. The kind of people who drink excessively often have a deep desire for Godly satisfaction in their own life, yet just cannot seem to work this out logically. No counseling chain of Bible verses will help them, they have to simply come to God as a little child as in a loving parent/child relationship.✞

"Parent Child Relationships"
by Ron Meacock © 1982-2018

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